Tips for People Interacting with Grandparents or Older Loved Ones
If you have a grandparent or older loved one in your life with dementia, it's important to understand a little bit about their disease and how it might affect their communication.
About Dementia
Dementia is a progressive brain disorder that can cause problems with memory, thinking, and behavior. You can’t outwardly see dementia like you can see a broken arm or leg, but think of dementia as a broken brain. You can’t see it but it is always there. It can make communicating difficult but with some planning and patience, you both can still have a wonderful relationship.
Remember to live in the moment. Stringing good moments together and creating happy feelings are the goal. If they don’t remember your name, don’t get upset. Keep in mind that they most likely know you are someone important to them and that is what matters most.
Long Term Memory
Also keep in mind that many people with dementia have solid memories of their past even though they cannot remember what happened yesterday. Ask about what their life was like when they were your age or about their childhood. Their long term memory may be so strong that they can confuse the past for the present. Don’t worry about correcting them. Again, live in the moment. It is better to be happy than correct!
Tips for interacting with grandparents with dementia
Communicate with your grandparent with patience, understanding, and a focus on the present moment. Ask questions, reminisce, and do things together to connect with them.
Be patient and understanding. Remember that your grandparent is not trying to be difficult. They are simply struggling to communicate due to the changes in their brain.
Ask questions. If you don't understand something your grandparent says, don't be afraid to ask them to repeat themselves or explain what they mean.
Be patient with their memory lapses. It's normal for people with dementia to forget things. Don't get frustrated with them if they forget your name or something else important.
Focus on the present moment. Don't dwell on the past or worry about the future. Instead, focus on spending time with your grandparent and enjoying the present moment.
Reminisce. Talking about the past can be a great way to connect with your grandparent. Ask them to tell you stories about their life, and share your own stories with them.
Do things together. Spending time with your grandparent is a great way to show them that you love and care about them. Go for walks, play games, or just sit and talk.
Get involved in their care. If your grandparent needs help with daily tasks, offer to help them. This could include things like cooking, cleaning, or running errands.
Dementia is a progressive brain disorder that can affect communication. Be patient, understanding, and focus on the present moment when interacting with a grandparent with dementia. You can still have a meaningful and valuable relationship with your loved one with dementia. You can make a big difference in their life by adding joy and happy moments.
